In case you missed it, I auditioned for a TEDx talk in another town several hours away, back in September 2018 and was accepted for the main talk (called conference) scheduled for January 2019.
However, I have decided to pass on it this time, with the agreement that I have the option of presenting at the TedX Conference in January 2020 instead, which I also won’t be doing. I guess I am not that interested anymore.
Yes, I realize this was a huge opportunity as it has been on my bucket list for 10 years. However, what you may not know is just how intense the scheduling and deadlines are to do a TED Talk of any kind.
During the process I have received several questions that I will briefly answer here:
(1) No, you do not get paid to do a TED Talk, in fact, you incur expenses in the form of time, money, and energy! I have always donated time, money, and energy to things I am passionate about, so this was not a big deal to me. But if traveling is problematic or you have budget concerns, definitely consider this before applying to audition.
(2) If you work an 8-5 job or have small kids or elderly parents you are caring for, you most definitely will require a very strong, diligent, and flexible support system and / or a very understanding boss. This was one of my main concerns due to an elderly parent.
(3) If you have health concerns, the stress with the TEDx scheduling and intense pressure put on you (often with very unrealistic expectations) can very easily exacerbate symptoms.
(4) All other questions are best answered at your local TEDx location since all operate a bit differently.
Now the question I am getting is WHY did I pass up this opportunity?
Well, if the above didn’t help answer that, maybe this will.
Without getting into a ton of details, this should help give you an idea as to “why”:
* I missed out on almost a month of planning script-wise because of this elderly parent in ICU (hospital) in another state.
* I was preparing for a large court-case / testimony deadline. My career has always been my priority and testifying as an expert witness is tough. Therefore it is imperative to have all the details in order by checking, rechecking, and rechecking again.
* I was helping financially & emotionally support my loved ones during a different crisis, so helping them resituate took priority.
* I was working on the deadline of the next book in my self-help series, which was due to publisher in a few days. This book series is my true passion-project, so…
* With all of this combined, I just could not give the TedX opportunity the time and attention it needed… nor did I want to.
In addition, most people do their TED Talk for a few main reasons:
(A) to gain credibility prior to writing a book… I have written dozens over my 30-year career;
(B) to gain credibility as an expert in their field… I’ve done that too, since 1987; and
(C) to bring more clients to their business. Everyone could use more clients, right? I am passion-driven, not money-driven so this alone was not enough to push myself.
I had an amazing time at the audition and have made some great friends during the preparation workshops. However, pushing myself to submit to this opportunity would have done nothing more than take me away from my passions and priorities.
And please don’t get me started on the contract I had to sign.
This was simply not a win-win opportunity.
Oh, and in case you are wondering… this was in no way an “emotional decision”. I have always been very calm under stress and I am very level-headed. I do not impulsively jump into major decisions like this or say “no” to opportunities without significant amounts of critical thinking. The timing simply was not aligned.
Therefore, after contemplating my decision very deeply for weeks, I felt an enormous amount of relief and peace with my decision.
So I guess I am sharing this with you as a reminder to always do what’s best for you…
Ms. Mozelle Martin, FMHP, FHWE, PhD.
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