I have hated Facebook with a passion since it started but kept it only because my kids and grandkid are on there. Plus I didn’t want to leave my awesome friends, or my private family group with over 420 DNA relatives from around the world there either (which, for me being an adoptee growing up with no relatives, is a big deal).
It’s no secret that I’ve hoped some alternative to Facebook would become available to wipe Facebook virtually off the internet just like they did to MySpace (social media karma?). Well, it’s finally happening – people are leaving Facebook by the millions – more on that in a minute.
I’ve been more than patient and tolerant of Facebook’s shenanigans, and I have forgiven Facebook much more than they ever deserved.
- I forgave Facebook when I was hacked 3 times and was never let back into my account… so I had to start from scratch each time.
- I forgave Facebook for not deleting a business page with 1,500 followers that a hacker stole from me years ago. The page is still on there even though I proved that I owned it (and had to hire an attorney to do so). Plus, there hasn’t been a post on it since 2013.
- I forgave Facebook for playing “Russian roulette” with my friends’ list (multiple times, I lost count after a dozen).
- I forgave Facebook for asking me repeatedly for my driver’s license (to upload to them to prove who I was) – in hindsight I should have asked them to prove to me who they were! What are they doing with my identification? Who is on the other end that now has access to even more of my private information?
- I forgave Facebook for not allowing me to name my business pages my actual business name because they said it was “not a real name” (even though my business license and website proved it to them).
- I also forgave Facebook for over-charging me on paid ads which never seem to work (another scam as far as I’m concerned).
- And soooo much more!
However… I am DONE forgiving them because:
- It is unforgivable to me that they sell my information and inundate me with ads and clutter I’m not interested in (I should not have to click ‘block ad’ and then explain why I’m blocking it!)
- A few days ago, Facebook said my forensic website was “against community standards”. I refuted that crap too and, as usual, no response.
- For the past 5 years, whenever a new relative joins my private Facebook family group, I put out a “Welcome new cousin….” post so other relatives in the group can connect with him/her. I did that over 420 times in those 5 years. This cousin was the first new relative in 2 months so it’s not like it was excessive. Yet, somehow Facebook said the welcome message is against their “spam” policy. Since when!?
- Then yesterday, I sent my son a message and got an error saying, “unable to post comment because it violates community terms” – that’s my SON and it wasn’t a forward, or spam… it was “Hey dude, hope the new job is awesome. Love you”.
- Immediately after sending that, Facebook asked me to verify the random faces of 5 friends – I did.
- Then, they asked to verify my email, phone number and password – I did.
- Then they completely BLOCKED me from my own account.
They did not ask for ID or anything else to be uploaded (this time). They gave no option to refute their BS and no option to comment. They also gave no timeframe (ie: you’re in Facebook Jail for 3 days) – nothing at all, not even a canned email saying “We’re reviewing your information… blah, blah, blah”.
One would think that, since I verified everything correctly when they first asked, I would not be booted from my own account. What’s the point of those verification questions if they kicked me out anyway?!
During this 36 hour wait…
- I found out from Facebook directly that all of our comments are now being moderated by people in Indonesia (I have friends from Indonesia but um, excuse me… with the language barrier and different slangs, I find this just wrong).
- I found a place on Facebook that I never knew existed… a hidden area showing all types of people, places, and things I’m supposedly “interested” in which I know is not true because there were over 400 items on there of which I only would have been “interested” in about 5 of them. In fact, the majority of them were unknown-to-me TV shows, movies, musicians, books, hobbies, medical conditions, geographical locations, politicians, random topics, and supposedly famous people I have never heard of. CHECK YOURS (click to expand the “Your Interests” section). Then, when you hold your mouse over the picture, click the “x” in the corner to remove. Be sure to also click “see more” (tiny grayed-out writing under the squares) – is Facebook trying to hide that option? Also, be sure to click on all categories listed horizontally across the top of the page.
- I also found a great replacement for Facebook and that is MeWe (but this was definitely not an impulse-move – more on that in a sec).
- I am persistent and assertive and I strongly dislike being bullied. So I was determined to find a way to bully them back (legally)… AND I DID! So, if you’ve been bullied by Facebook – locked out, deactivated, reported, or just plain messed with – check out this video that I made just for you. After I did the 3 quick steps in this video, I was back into my account within 20 minutes. I’m not going back to Facebook, but if you wish to continue riding Facebook’s pirate ship, this video may help you get back in when they decide to bully you.
As I said, this was not an impulsive decision because I have a lot of contacts and followers built up that I can potentially lose. Because I have hated Facebook for sooooo long, I had weighed the pros and cons of leaving Facebook. Additionally, I had been looking at and trying various alternatives to Facebook for over a year.
The only one that I really liked was MeWe (see my WARNING below).
- Unlike Facebook, I m not bombarded with ads on MeWe.
- As a matter of fact, I don’t get any ads… at all… ever.
- At MeWe, I was able to create groups and event invites just like on Facebook (but easier).
- I don’t have to pay to boost events that nobody really sees or responds to!
- At MeWe, I was able to create my business page and choose my own username without them saying my name isn’t real (yes that’s happened on Facebook before too, even after submitting my ID).
- I don’t have to pay to boost posts that nobody really sees or responds to!
- I’m very apolitical and I don’t post political stuff anywhere – and never did. But on Facebook, I still got slammed with political hatred. On MeWe, I don’t!
- Because I do thoroughly enjoy my First Amendment rights and, unlike Facebook who likes to ration my rights, at MeWe my free speech is not monitored by anyone… especially people in other countries. This is a good and bad thing because some people really should have duct tape wrapped around their fingers to silence their stupidity, lol.
- I also have full control over what I say, what I see, and who I connect with on MeWe without being suffocated by propaganda, other bullshit I don’t care about, and without having to deal with all of Facebook’s unpredictable shenanigans!
- And this is important… MeWe does not sell my information either.
- If you are into video chat and do a lot of private messaging, MeWe makes it way more convenient than Facebook’s messenger app!
- In all, if you find Facebook confusing, too cluttered, or just prefer a more minimalistic platform, I really think you’ll love MeWe (I call it “the social media platform without ADHD”)
Originally, the post was supposed to end here.
But then more shenanigans occurred on their side that definitely should be shared. I think you’ll be glad I shared it with you. I did all the work, you just have to read 🙂
Moving on with Facebook’s bullying tactics…
The next day, January 21, 2020 – they ended up asking me for my ID. Then said my “identity can’t be confirmed”… I uploaded my state investigator’s ID and my state driver’s license (note below they acknowledge “2 photos uploaded”)…
((I get the feeling they are targeting me, but I know I’m not the only one. Admittedly, it is pretty impressive that little ol’ me has caused this much concern for them, lol))
As you likely already figured out… I wrote this blog post because I didn’t know when or even if Facebook would let me back in. I didn’t want any of my friends or family members thinking something happened to me or that I blocked them.
Facebook leaves horrible profiles up – child predators, animal abusers, etc. – and continues to bully the good people! In fact, a few years ago I worked on the Isabel Celis case and one of the pictures on the predator’s Facebook profile was very inappropriate and helped affirm his guilt. I was also interviewed about the case by Crime Watch Daily. I can’t get into more detail than that, but no good people deserve to be bullied by Facebook just because it helps further their sick agenda in some way. I just may have to start a “Facebook Victim Recovery” group on MeWe, lol.
** WARNING: MeWe is like all other social media sites in this way… **
At first, you will most likely not have any or many friends on MeWe (a good reason to invite your Facebook friends to MeWe), so your settings will have to say “anyone” for those who can friend request you. Otherwise, your friends and family (those you do actually wish to connect with) will not be able to connect with you at all. When you first come over to MeWe, you will definitely have the creeps friend request you. For we gals, it’s usually the men who are “Military Generals” or “Oil Rig” or “Construction” big-shots. I’m sure for guys, there are just-as-creepy gals too. But there are also great people there that you may really enjoy getting to know. The bottom line is to look at the profile of a “new contact” first to see if you have shared friends, see if they just joined or are established and that their posts are logical and in line with your lifestyle (ie: drugs, politics, religion, abortion, etc.). See if they have a real profile and heading photo up or if they are copied from here or here… or if they just left up the default photo options. Then, look for things you may have in common with them such as hobbies, careers, or geographical location. If there is no reason to be connected, don’t connect. Period. Keep in mind that this is not just on MeWe, it was that way on MySpace, Twitter, and Facebook when you first started too (and it still randomly occurs even on well-established profiles). In fact, it is the same on all social media platforms because creeps are everywhere. At the end of the day, it’s 100% up to you to do your due diligence in keeping you and your loved ones safe. Check out MeWe Safety FAQs.
Finally, I am whole-heartedly backing Elon Musk and the #deleteFacebook movement and the other movements started by now-happily-recovered victims of Facebook… just like this guru says. Oh, and did you know that Zuckerberg called us “dumb fucks”? Plus, Facebook manipulated our emotions for science, and even Stanford agrees that leaving Facebook is better for our mental health!
But remember that Facebook also bought Instagram in 2012 and Instagram is even worse for our mental health say the experts. What’s the common denominator in Facebook and Instagram? Yep – Zuckerberg and his lynchmen.
So, if you ever decide to walk the plank and jump off Facebook’s pirate ship, you may be concerned about how to tell your friends and family members. For your convenience, you could use a variation of this “goodbye message” or a variation of mine (below).
You could also set up a free survey form to obtain offline contact information of everyone you wish to stay in touch with (Facebook kept blocking those posts and PMs too, but thanks to Wufoo, I stayed ahead of them). Then, I deleted all of my previous posts, pictures, unliked all the pages, and unfriended everyone.
Finally, I placed all my settings to “friends” or “friends of friends” (I don’t have any friends since I already unfriended everyone) to keep it as private as possible. I then put up one “frozen post” (below) that redirects everyone to this blog post.
However, because Facebook said my website was “against community standards”, I had to buy a new domain at GoDaddy and post that new domain on the “frozen post” before actually making that link live (outsmarted Facebook (for a short time)).
FYI – here is my “goodbye (frozen) post”…
Update as of 1/22/20… need more proof Facebook only cares about the money? I thought I’d have a bit of fun with Facebook on my way out and have them help me bring people over to MeWe. I decided to boost one more time but this time I boosted the post below.
Although it took 2 days for Facebook to “manually review” (meaning a real human reads it)… do they really “review” it? Either the “Indonesian reviewer” didn’t understand the message in this blog or Facebook post that I wanted to boost, or Facebook truly does not care about their reputation, only about making money off of me. Perhaps both.
Either way… like it or not, we are Facebook customers and this blog post is a bad review. With that in mind… according to what Facebook said directly… they reviewed (read) the post and then approved (chose) to boost it. If you aren’t a Facebook user in this way, “boost” means targeted advertising to more people for a cost.
That begs the question…
Would any reputable company that truly cares about its customers choose to review and then boost a “bad review”?
I highly doubt it.
But it didn’t stop there…
Update as of 1/23/20… it got so bad that I had to type everything in a graphic in Canva and then send replies in messenger as graphics (images) because they flagged every single word or phrase!
Then, I had 23 people who had originally shared this post that you are now reading on Facebook. At the time of this update, it says 0 shares (below). When talking with WordPress support, they said, “the shares were removed”. When I asked how they were removed, they replied, “When Facebook deletes user’s shares, it resets your share count” – meaning that Facebook’s lynchmen went to the Facebook account of each person that shared this post and removed the posts. Wow.
Because I care about others, please do share this on non-Facebook locations. But because I care about you specifically, please do not share this post on Facebook unless you are extra-brave. Otherwise, you may be their next victim.
Then today – 1/24/20… I tried texting my son again just for shits & giggles, and…
Then, a relative sent me this screenshot. Whenever she (and dozens of other friends and family members) tried to respond to me privately, this error message popped up…
Later, a close friend of over 30 years messaged me on Facebook asking for the link to this blog post (remember… they “reviewed” and “boosted” this post). When I sent it to her, I got this message…
Then, the same post they boosted (that I paid for) was removed by them (without any notice that they did that) but THEY KEPT BILLING ME…
This verifies two things: (1) that they only care about taking my money (they boosted this link after supposedly reading it) and they are targeting me (aka: bullying).
BTW – here is a message I received from someone on Facebook who is a cyber investigations guru. I have known her for over 20 years…
Since they are so obsessed with me, I think I’ll autograph a poster of myself and mail it to Zuck himself! LOL
Then someone sent me this article but I’ll let you decide for yourself. According to this Facebook insider, Zuckerberg didn’t actually create Facebook.
That finally brings us to the end since I am done with what I needed to do to officially leave Facebook.
I hope this post helps protect you from this giant bully – a bully who likes to silence your 1st Amendment Right to Free Speech.
Update as of 3/1/20: I did return to Facebook sublty but I’m really not active like I was. I only did so after hiring an attorney to contact Facebook Corporate and explain the 1st Amendment Rights Violation. They didn’t ignore that. Then we found out that apparently, “several people reported” my proven scientific (forensic) posts as *spam* (same things people could find on Google). Because of that, Facebook thought I was hijacked by a bot. I had sooo many elderly family members ask me to return to Facebook. Most are in their 80s and struggling with technology. So much in fact, that they don’t even know how to put a profile picture up. I realized that expecting them to switch to MeWe was unrealistic and would likely be stressful for them. So, while I have decided to return to Facebook incognito-as-possible, I had also decided to change my business page completely – a type of Mash-Up really and to finally launch Plantology. However, I am pre-scheduling posts and I don’t have messenger anymore. Just very minimal activity.
Quite frankly, I may eventually end up leaving all social media because one thing I have learned through this entire process is that life is soooooo much better and peaceful without it.
Ms. Mozelle Martin, FMHP, FHWE, PhD.
- 35-year International Forensic Handwriting Expert
- Author: What I Learned From Watching CSI
- Contracted Forensic Mental Health Professional for Jails & Prisons
- Creator of The Housecall Analyst forensic book series
- Forensic Consultant since 2007 – FindMeGroup.org
- Former Forensic Consultant – Criminal Minds TV show
- Media Commentator for ABC, NBC, TruTV, Crime Watch Daily, etc.
- Plantologist, Pianist, Photographer, and Artist